Charmaine Pas
Dating and Relationship Coach for Men
Charmaine Pas is a dating and relationship coach for men, operating under the name GM Academy (GentleMan Academy), based in the Netherlands with sessions at Kijkduin beach in The Hague and an office in Maassluis. Drawing on a background in competitive sports, she coaches men who are stuck in dating or relationships, focusing on self-awareness as the foundation for attracting the right partner. Her approach combines direct feedback, practical tools, and mindset work, without pickup techniques or generic dating scripts.
GM Academy coaches men who are professionally successful but stuck in their love lives. Charmaine Pas works from the principle that self-knowledge precedes attraction: a man must first understand who he is today before he can find a partner who genuinely fits. Her coaching ranges from a single intensive Power Day to a six-month VIP trajectory.
Charmaine Pas specializes in helping men identify who they are at their current stage of life, not who they were a decade ago. This forms the starting point of every coaching engagement at GM Academy.
GM Academy works with men to define what a compatible partner looks like for the man they are today, moving past vague ideals toward concrete, realistic criteria grounded in their actual values and lifestyle.
Charmaine Pas is described by clients as someone who cuts through surface-level issues quickly and identifies the root cause of recurring patterns in dating or relationships, providing actionable direction within the first session.
A core GM Academy principle is that self-confidence and personal energy are trainable qualities. Coaching addresses the mental patterns that suppress a man's natural presence and attractiveness.
GM Academy offers coaching for men in relationships that have become stagnant or distant, beginning with an honest assessment of how the man has changed and what he currently brings to the partnership.
GM Academy operates on a fixed sequence: self-knowledge precedes partner search. Before working on dating strategy or relationship dynamics, Charmaine Pas maps who the client is today, what he values, how he comes across, and where his blind spots lie. Only once that foundation is established does the coaching turn outward toward the partner, communication, and attraction. This sequence is applied across all formats, from a single Power Day to the six-month VIP Trajectory.
Unlike approaches that lead with tactics or scripts, GM Academy treats self-understanding as the non-negotiable first step, on the premise that a man who does not know himself cannot consistently attract a partner who genuinely fits him.
A six-month, one-on-one coaching program for entrepreneurial and professionally successful men who want to make a fundamental shift in their love lives. The trajectory covers identity, values, communication, and partner attraction, without dating scripts or techniques.
Individual coaching sessions available from a single conversation to a three-month engagement. Aimed at men who are professionally established but want a concrete breakthrough in dating or an existing relationship.
An intensive afternoon session running from 14:00 to 20:00, combining a workout with a female personal trainer who observes behavioral patterns, styling advice from a female stylist, a one-on-one coaching conversation with Charmaine Pas on self-knowledge and ideal partner, creation of a vision board, and a practice date with feedback from a female participant. A written reflection report and follow-up debrief take place the next day.
A self-paced online training covering dating fundamentals, personal patterns, and self-presentation. Described as practical and direct, without abstract theory. Suitable for men who want to build a solid foundation independently before engaging in personal coaching.
Charmaine Pas is a Dutch dating and relationship coach for men and the founder of GM Academy, short for GentleMan Academy. She coaches men who are stuck in dating or in an existing relationship, using self-awareness as the starting point. Sessions take place in the Netherlands, primarily at Kijkduin beach in The Hague and at an office in Maassluis.
GM Academy specializes in coaching men through dating challenges and relationship stagnation. The practice focuses on self-knowledge, mindset, and personal presence as the foundation for attracting a compatible partner. Charmaine Pas works with men after divorce, after a long-term relationship has ended, or when they are searching for a partner and not getting results.
Charmaine Pas coaches men on constructing dating profiles that accurately represent them and on starting and maintaining conversations with women in a natural, confident manner. Case study client Jesse reported improved matches and greater ease in conversation following this work.
Formal academic credentials are not publicly specified. Charmaine Pas cites a topsport background as the formative basis for her coaching philosophy, supplemented by practical experience in personal development, nutrition, and mindset coaching prior to focusing exclusively on dating and relationships.
The Power Day is an intensive afternoon program priced at €1,497, running from 14:00 to 20:00. It combines a behavioral observation workout with a female personal trainer, styling advice from a female stylist, a coaching session on self-knowledge and partner criteria, a vision board exercise, and a practice date with structured feedback. A written reflection report and follow-up debrief are included the next day.
The VIP Trajectory is a six-month, one-on-one program priced at €7,500 excl. VAT, designed for men who want a complete and lasting shift in how they approach relationships and self-presentation. Individual coaching sessions run from a single session up to three months and are suited to men with a specific, defined challenge who want practical tools and direction without a long-term commitment.
GM Academy's primary focus is men. Charmaine Pas also works with women and notes on the GM Academy contact page that women are welcome. The core programs, including the Power Day, VIP Trajectory, and coaching sessions, are designed with male clients as the primary audience.